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Clarity is the intention to approach any issue or situation according to our number one priority, what serves our happiness. A question that is approached without this direction can never lead to clarity, only to opinion. To explain further, there is a simple set of questions that allows us to explore any issue with clarity:
1. Does it matter?
2. What is at stake here?
3. Which answer serves my happiness, how, and does it even serve my happiness right now to deal with this?

For example, I have a friend who was with this girl for 15 years. Throughout all these years he had been bitching about her, how she doesn’t clean the capuccino milk frother and the milk goes bad and green inside, how she doesn’t close the cap of the toothpaste and it drips on the counter, how she is frigid in bed and so on and so forth. Eventually she got fed up of never being good enough and left him, and he fell into despair and depression. When I asked him why he was not happy that he was free of her and all her annoying habits, he answered that he wanted her back, that he would buy an extra frother for her, standing toothpaste tube with a button, and she wasn’t that bad in bed after all. He found that all these petty issues were not worth losing her, and instantly found solutions for all!
Same applies to issues such as “I want to go for chinese and she wants to go for Italian, I want red curtains and she wants lilac etc.
Does it matter? Isn’t the priority to have fun and be in a good mood together? Can we not go for chinese another time?
What’s at stake here? Some stupid irrelevant detail, or being close to the one we love and see their pleasure? Is it ego, rigid ideas, childish tantrums, power games etc. that is at stake or our love, happiness, wellbeing and the relationship itself?
What serves my happiness, what is as it should be, and is it even as it should be to even care about this?

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Dear Robert, sorry for the delay in my response. Initially, I decided to live out of anger. I was angry at God, I was angry at people and I was angry at myself. I didn’t want to live in a world where everybody including myself was horrible and petty, in a world where nothing mythic and noble exists. I decided that I would turn myself into a mythic being like in the stories that I used to read when I was a kid. I felt that if I could prove that one mythic being can exist, and it’s not all just stupid kids stories, then more can exist. To find out more, read my first book, A Mythic Voyage, where I tell the whole story in detail. A big hug, Mikis

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Agreed, great suggestion Andrew, now the the forum is young and the traffic is low, it is important to build it in a way that is usable for new people. We appreciate everybody’s input to make this forum a great tool of support. Thanks

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Well, it will be great to hear your experiences after using these tools for a few weeks, maybe after 3 months. As you mention, it is vital that people engrave the pillars on an active and conscious level, by reading the pillars and feeling inside them what kind of reaction they provoke. Passive engraving is definitely useful, but active engraving is vital.

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Hi Tyy. Sorry for the delay in my response.
1. Everything that we are is based on our belief systems that control how we think, feel, experience reality and act. To start with, the first agreement in Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is “Be impeccable with your word”. The “Don’t make assumptions” is agreement No.3, but this is a later modification and a variation in the translation. The original text is “Have no expectations” and is a more correct translation in context . Assumptions in this case means expectations.
Assumption in English is a low level of belief; although it is a “truth” taken for granted it includes no real due diligence and can be easily challenged because it is a non conscious belief. Trust is a fully conscious choice of beliefs. Beliefs come in different levels of intensity all the way to dogma and even further to a taboo. In your example of the floor, if you are in a cabin in the woods and the owner tells you “watch out for the floor, it is rotten and it may break”, your belief is shattered immediately! But trust is the opposite, it goes against data or people’s opinion, and as such is totally different than arbitrary assumptions.
In the example of your friend and his job, he either chose to selectively register compliments and not register warnings, thus becoming complacent or he didn’t get the job for reasons irrelevant to him such as economic issues with the company, policy changes etc. (2nd agreement: “do not take anything personally). In both cases the correct translation of the 3rd agreement applies “Have no expectations”. Your friend should trust his abilities but make no assumptions and have no expectations. Trust and Assumption are not the same in any way.
2a. Pride is a choice like anything else. I remember a story I heard when I was a child about a friend’s father and his own father’s expectations. My friend’s father, Albert went to study in England at the same University where his father had studied. Back then, 70 years ago, travel was difficult so he was away from home for 4 years. He eventually came back home with a BSC with Honours First class. He was welcomed in the train station by his father and all of the family, aunts, uncles etc. included. He alights from the train after 4 years and his father slaps him hard in the face and says: “This is for not achieving valedictorian. Now embrace your father!” Pride does not require any specific achievements, everyone puts the bar according to how much they wish to open their hearts.
2b. I have never mentioned the concept of compassion in any of my books, but for the sake of conversation, compassion is feeling what the other person feels. In the case of self love, self love comes from being proud of ourselves, thus loving ourselves, being one with ourselves . Self compassion is an instrument of separation, because who is compassionate with whom? Which part of you is the judge, needing to have compassion for the other, the judged?
3. Rocks have infinitesimal choice as far as any observational power you have as a human. It has some choice as everything but a severely limited choice, a choice on a subatomic, quantic level. According to quantum physics even tiny electrons have choice, and thus the subatomic elements of the rock endow it with choice. But this choice is infinitesimal, in the same way as if the same stone is thrown from the top of the mountain there is a choice, a probability that it will go up and not down due to gravity and Newtonian physics, but for all intents and purposes it is extremely unlikely that in your lifetime you will see a stone doing exactly that.

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Your chosen name and your chosen belief system are your identity, who you choose to be, the expression of your soul. You should not allow anybody to force you to relinquish them or hide them. All of us are needy for love, and many times we pretend or accept and hide or beliefs so that other people will like us, and then the love we receive is fake, because it refers to the person other people want us to be rather than the one we choose to be. You should dare to talk about this, declare your choices, including the name you wish to be called by. If the people in your surroundings love you, they will understand, and if they do not, you should not wish their love.
You deserve to be loved for who you are, and who you are is a reflection of your choices. If anybody does not agree, they do not deserve you. If you pretend to be someone you are not to gain people’s love, you will always suffer from paradox and be miserable.

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You can be alone in a place full of people, and you can have hundreds of social acquaintances and feel totally alone. I also like the masculine bliss of being by myself but knowing that people that I love and love me exist in my life makes the bliss possible, because it is my choice, rather than a lack of people who understand me. Micro expressions help you understand people through understanding the subconscious symbolism that they exude, and people like Paul Ekman ( he is not the only one) that can help you become proficient in noticing them do a good job, but training is no substitute for feeling, because through training you learn to recognize subconscious messages with your conscious mind, a slow and inefficient tool whereas you can process symbolism subconsciously half a million times faster and more efficiently.
As for controlling our own transmissions, with consciousness and alignment we can have full or almost full control of what we transmit. |Regarding our philosophical, indeed it takes time to change our belief systems and engrave new ones on our subconscious, but this is exactly the work I have been doing successfully for years.

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Hello Ariella, thank you for your question, I feel that there are many people facing similar issues. It actually is all about the belief system. Your father’s belief system obviously makes him fearful of your choices because he believes that your choices make you unsafe. He would feel safe if you adapted to his belief system, had a “down to earth” steady job and feels that if he supported you in your “dangerous folly” to pursue a music career he would be putting you in danger. He also probably feels hurt by the events in your life that gave him no choice on how to raise you and guide you and is also in paradox (internal contradiction) because he is simultaneously guilty and ashamed about his part in the broken family conditions that you have experienced. He wants you to be safe rather than being happy pursuing your dreams, because this is the life choice that he pursued. If you actually succeeded in being happy by choosing to follow your dreams and not choosing the safe way, that would discredit all of his life choices. If you want to be closer to him, try to alleviate his guilt by expressing gratitude for your life experiences, absolve him of any responsibility for your life choices and your life so far, and just declare that you just want to have a relationship with him without requiring anything from him, no strings attached. It will take him some time to believe you, but eventually, when he sees that you mean it, he will soften up. It is his belief system that defines his thoughts, emotions and behavior and you can not change that overnight, but you can peck at it little by little by making the right symbolic moves, mainly require nothing from him from now on other than his love.

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Finding Golden Line involves training your mind to make choices that provide a net benefit to as many issues as possible and to as many people as possible involved in a particular situation IF THEY CHOOSE TO. It is about providing an opportunity, not force people into things. People have a right to make their own choices, and you are not responsible for them. Making a choice that provides Golden Lines for everyone around, does not obligate anyone to take the benefits, and it should not bother you if they do not. Adjusting your actions so that they do not only serve narrow objectives but expand to serve multiple other side objectives and provide as many benefits as possible as widely as possible is an internal exercise in optimization and consciousness and has nothing to do with other people’s choices. Your success should be dependent on how much you can open your heart and mind and envision the effect of the waves of a particular action in time space probability and have the will and consciousness to optimize this effect. This is enough, whether other people choose to be happy or self destructive is none of your business.

The Intention is what happens, no matter what! is a way to respect your intentions and give them power, and it is explained in the text. This site will be providing many more pillar beliefs than you know and will be enriched constantly. It is Sara’s favorite, so I included it in the main kernel, and there are many other tried and tested pillar beliefs that will surface as more and more versions appear on the site.

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You say that you find it hard to believe that profit driven companies value eco choices. Why? If it is good for business, why not? And what makes a person owning or working for a profit driven business less responsible or conscientious than you? Patagonia, a big outdoor clothes and equipment company owes its sales to their eco profile and so do many other companies. What we people want, companies provide. Marketing values convenience because we humans value convenience even more than we value economics, and the labor, water and detergents required to clean a huge amount of cups is what WE DON’T WANT TO DO ALL THE TIME! Use of toilet paper is not sanitary at all, a clean towel not exposed to the germs in the toilet that is properly washed afterwards is way more sanitary- but not at all convenient which is why you are not willing to even try it.
If you want tools for your belief system just go online and start researching honestly; find the cost and carbon footprint of paper cups, the cost of transport and disposal, the chemicals used and released during manufacturing, the average amount of coffee and beverages sold by an average coffee shop, calculate the labor time, water and soap that would be required for clay cups, figure out what would happen every time one forgot their cup, how they would carry it dirty all day after their morning coffee until their afternoon coffee and how much they would enjoy carrying their personal mug together with their shopping when they return home and figure it out: Paper cups rock!!
Stop finding things hard to believe and look for proof by doing honest, open minded research before you believe all the things that are easy to believe because the herd instinct and obedience to the viewpoints of your social environment make them easy to believe.

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To start with, I do not need to prove you wrong, you need to want to prove yourself wrong, and there is plenty of data out there and university research if you look. But mostly you need urgently to prove yourself wrong, because with your belief system you are angry at everybody, judgmental, extremely aggressive, when you speak about people giving 0 fucks, call people who are trying to make a living for their children “ignorant humans who fuck up gratuitous amounts of forests” and call all the people that provide the infrastructure you live in “idiots who cause destruction”
You think that people who work in the lumber industry, or the chemical industry, or the oil industry, or the plastics industry etc.etc. are not real people with families who care about the world, people who love and want to do their best just because they don’t see things your way!
A person who takes his coffee in a paper cup and then throws it away in the garbage with zero guilt (like me) may care about hospitals, about science, about the economy, about abandoned children, about art, about politics, social care, gardening and everything else but because they are not concerned about your particular hypocritical crusade you judge them and are angry at them.
You say “id like to think humanity does whats most economical and best in all scenarios, but it seem evident that convenience is also one of the highest valued traits in marketing which isn’t always necessary “best”. It seems we don’t use reusable mugs because people are too lazy to want to bring a cup with them and can depend that a paper cup awaits them at every coffee shop, so they just use the cup and give 0 fucks about what happens to it afterwards.” Humanity does do what is most economical and best if you consider all factors, and convenience is one of the highest value traits in marketing BECAUSE IT IS EVERYBODY’S VALUED TRAIT! Why shouldn’t it be? Because we need to suffer?
If you are honest about understanding try the following experiment for one month: Carry with you a towel in a plastic bag (the only way to carry a wet, dirty towel, but you can use the same bag every day by washing it from the shit), wipe your ass with it and then place it in the bag, carry it around with you and wash it every evening so you can reuse it the next day. Add the cost of detergent and the waste of water and see how much your convenience will take it, and if you last a month, how much of your energy it will have taken and how much money it will have cost. But I bet you you don’t last 3 days!

And ask yourself this: in which way does your anger and disdain serve your happiness and your open heart? Truth is What serves my Happiness- The right answer is not the one that feels right, but the one that makes me feel love.

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Good questions, and in most of them there is a fine line that you need to understand:
1. Death/Change. Every being has a sense of self and the instinct of self preservation, so naturally every being wishes to preserve itself, to live as a number one priority. But every other living being except humans is only afraid of death when there is real, imminent danger there, they take action to avert it and stop worrying about it the moment the danger is gone. If you watch nature documentaries, you may see a herd of antelope grazing contentedly in the African Savannah and they are attacked by a lion or a cheetah; huge panic ensues, they run right and left full of adrenaline but regardless of whether one is captured or they all manage to escape within less than a minute they are grazing again in tranquility just a couple of hundred yards away. They do not suffer from trauma or from PTSD. The danger has passed for now, they are happy. The paradox lies in that humans have philosophies that tell us that afterlife is much better than life, that life is suffering in order to get to nirvana or paradise. So, in contrast to other life forms we should not be afraid of death. However, there is a catch: If you do not extinguish all human or living being characteristics, such as the ego, selfishness, sexuality, gluttony etc. you will go to hell, eternal damnation or worse: infinite reincarnations of suffering. So we are not under the natural instinct of self preservation and fear of death, we are in terror and constant anxiety about AFTER DEATH, because how ever well we pretend, we know inside us that we cannot escape our humanity and our instincts, since we all have egos, we are all naturally selfish, we all experience lust regardless of our declarations (as the numerous scandals of supposedly celibate priests prove again and again), we all obey the hard wired instructions, of LifeOS, the basic operating system inside every living being. As for change, again, all beings resist change as a safety measure, but if change is inevitable, say, they have to leave their area because there is no more food or new predators have arrived, they adapt and suffer no trauma.

2. This question applies not only to paper cups or the rain forest, but to every human action and subsequent effect on the environment. It applies to cars, airplanes, heating, air conditioning, packaging, clothes, shoes, ice cream, babies disposable nappies, laundry, disposable hospital gloves, syringes and other medical equipment, supermarket bags, disposable lighters and pens, roads, trains, trucks, shampoos and soap, toilet paper etc. You do use all of that stuff, right? Twenty years ago, talking to my brother who was a Chemical Engineer at GE Plastics, I expressed my anger at the tons of plastic bags that they were manufacturing and he showed me some figures whereby using paper bags not only destroyed the forests for wood pulp ( even recycled paper needs to contain a majority of fresh pulp to hold and tons of acid that has to be released to the environment to make it) but also produced a huge volume of trash. Although plastic bags can live up to a thousand years before they degrade, they weigh no more than 15% of the weight of paper bags and a small fraction of the volume, they require less water and release less pollutants and chemicals. According to government statistics, half of the volume of all landfills is paper whereas all plastic waste put together occupy about 10%. Militant environmentalists outlawed plastic bags in many States in the US such as California and tried to close manufacturing down, actually damaging the environment they wanted to protect due to misinformation and mistrust. Humanity finds answers such as biodegradable plastic bags, but militant greens, if they had their say would have stopped all research. Same applies with nuclear energy, which despite the terror the name causes is much safer than any other. People hate GMO’s and Monsanto as their figurehead but they do not realize that genetically modified seeds to be resistant to pests may one day stop us for pumping herbicides into the ground. For those who declare that the answer is organic permaculture, they do not realize that this means that would mean starvation to over 90% of the 7 billion human population- the poor! As for deforestation, even Brazil, one of the biggest culprits has now implemented laws to protect and to reforest, and progress is being made. Militant greens declare that in 100 years there will be no rainforest but they also predicted 40 years ago that right about now there would be no oil, that the ozone layer holes would have caused everybody skin cancer by now and much more.
The point is that everything humanity does is the most economical and best at the moment, and when there is a better alternative, we switch to it. Coal in the 19th century, oil and nuclear in the 20th, electricity and solar roofs in the 21st. Our civilization proves again and again that we fix the consequences of our technology. Paper and plastic cups are the most efficient and economical method today, and tomorrow there will be a better solution. But if everybody carried around their own mugs and glasses, wiped their asses with cloth and used handkerchiefs instead of tissues we would be using so much energy to clean them and so many waste chemicals and soaps as well as energy to carry them around that we would destroy the environment more. This does not mean that we should not be pushing for better and better and trying to bring awareness about the issues. It just means that we should trust our progress rather than try to emulate primitive times, and push for technological progress rather than regression and restriction.

3a. Your confusion stems from your belief that your intimate partner, your roommate or your business partner will take advantage of you, that you somehow are opponents fighting and competing and not on the same team. Again, it is about trust, and mainly trust that they are identical to you. You want to “help other people see their blind actions” and are frustrated that you cannot. It is your fault because you see their blind actions and not yours! If you trusted them, you would just show them how much their actions are hurting you and you would encourage them to voice their complaints against you. Then you would make sure that your actions that hurt them never happen again, taking full responsibility and trust that eventually they would recognize your efforts and stop their actions that hurt you back. And if they didn’t, you would still end up proud and thus loving yourself and they not. Your issue is that you are competing with them about whose fault it is that there is dissatisfaction and tension instead of making everything your fault for your 50%, solving it and trusting.
3b. Same same- you are competing. Stop needing them to understand their faults, spend your energy in understanding and correcting yours and trust!

4. Why would somebody have a huge abusive fit towards you because of a tiny mistake? Obviously because what you feel as a “tiny” mistake hurts them enough to go zonkers! It is your fault because you do not feel them, you do not put yourself in their shoes trusting that you are identical, so you are not being one with them, you are not loving them. You only throw a huge abusive fit if something seriously hurts you or frustrates you, and so do your loved ones.

5. Trusting does not preclude due diligence, so of course writing things down is an excellent practice and shows intention to not forget. Keep writing!

6. Are you happy sitting on the couch all day doing nothing? I think not! And you are not proud or creative either!

7. If you are happy and lose it, but cannot find anything that is not as it should be, you move to the next primary beliefs; what are you not trusting, which truth do you believe that does not serve your happiness and so on and so forth and you will find the cause